Traveling along may not be the choice that you would take, though spending a fortnight in the company of someone that you mistakenly believe to be a good travel companion can worsen the holiday and indeed make it a terrible experience. Putting thought into your holiday plans can make that holiday one to remember, and when choosing a holiday companion, there are so many considerations to be taken into account.
On choosing a travel companion, the fact that you have similar tastes works well in many instances, although if you don’t have similar tastes, this can work as well, as long as both of you are sufficiently independent and willing to go your own way during part of the holiday, not expecting your companion to bend to your will, or having to bend to theirs. There is a really good area of healthy difference here, because traveling with someone of this nature, you get to see the things that you want to see without being with them all day, and could get together in the evenings and have different aspects of the holiday destination to talk about. Being open minded and independent, you get the best of both worlds and can still do those things you enjoy without inflicting them on someone else.
Finding out in advance what others feel about their holiday expectations singles out the kind of traveler they are and for some the ideal holiday is to be with you all the time. Maybe that was your intention too, but only by discussion can you decide whether the person is the right one to spend a holiday with.
Deciding upon who pays what at the beginning of the holiday is a good way forward. Here, sharing costs can add such an asset to a stretched budget, though discussing what they see as reasonable prices for foods, and saying frankly if you are a cheap eater, and would prefer a picnic to an expensive restaurant meal is wise. Going halves only works if each person has the same outlook, and offering to go halves on everything can backfire, as their tastes may be more expensive than yours, costing you more than you anticipated.
When choosing a holiday companion, getting to know them well, and seeing how your interests could work together is a great start. Don’t be afraid to say what you want to do and what you like. Many bend to the will of a stronger personality and unless you are open and honest about what you seek in a holiday, then you cannot expect total harmony. They may want noisy night attractions when all you want is sunsets. They may be a beach bum, whilst you can’t take too much heat. You don’t have to have the same interests for it to work, but you do need to communicate, find out what rocks their boat and what they expect from you, which enables you to decide if they are the right person to share that precious holiday with.
Finding shared interests
Here, you need to take account of the possibilities that lie ahead, and how those shared interests will work. For example, you may like long hikes away from people, whilst they may not physically be able to share this because of illness or handicap. Think about all of the aspects you enjoy in a holiday and list them, and get them to list theirs. Everyone is different, and although they may want to go to every museum in town, would they be happy to do it on their own, or are their expectations including you ? Only by discussion can you find out.
Shared enjoyment on holiday helps you in many ways, because the security it gives a traveler is certainly an advantage. In times of trouble, you have someone there with you to share the load. In a foreign situation where explanation is needed, two heads are better than one.
Knowing in advance what you both like, and your expectations of each other helps enormously, and even though your likes may be different, the areas of compromise that exist so that both of you can have a great time should always be explored. Never force a companion to do all the things you want to do, or succumb to their expectations totally forgetting your own.
Talking out the whole adventure in advance, planning and understanding that each individual is different and wants different things helps the holiday to become a success. We all see stories on the television of those nightmare people that latch onto you on holiday because they need your company rather than you needing theirs, and the unwelcoming intrusion upon privacy. Never letting your situation escalade to the ridiculous and using compromise, both holiday partners can have their wishes granted, and both get equal enjoyment from the travel experience.
Companions shouldn’t be clones of each other, but should complement each other’s space and enjoyment, and finding the right one can, being aware that the holiday isn’t just for you, or in fact just for them, can make the experience a shared adventure into new territory that gives good memories. Companionship is sharing, and much the same as in any life situation, is a two way, give and take situation where everyone wins.